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Lee Woodruff's 'real life" touches 'Those We Love Most'-USA Today, 9/5/12
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Wednesday
Aug172011

Preparing To Send A Kid To College

As I prepare to send child #2 to college, I dusted off these tips I wrote when my first born went off.  They are still relevant today, but a friend's experience with her child this past spring inspired me to add this important one - make sure you have the number of the 24 hour campus security  so that, God forbid, in the middle of the night you can get directly to someone at the school if your child is in distress for any reason. Below is part one of my three blog series, published August 2010. 

 

Part 1: http://leewoodruff.squarespace.com/blog/2010/8/11/preparing-to-send-a-kid-to-college-part-1.html

Monday
Aug012011

Shorelines

I’m happy to roll out my new blog site, “Shorelines.”  This is a place where I’ll share my take on the humorous and ironic observations of life, but also some of the more poignant intersections that connect us all as human beings.  And I hope you’ll share back.

I chose the name Shorelines because my very favorite place in the world is beside a lake, where the blue green mountains slope gently toward the water.  The shore I love is often surprising and constantly in flux.  There are big rocky cliffs for jumping, sandy beaches tucked in bays and islands close enough in to let you walk out.  There are turtles sunning themselves, kayakers, and even bald eagles who have returned to nest in this ancient glacial basin.  No two shore points are ever the same and there’s always something to discover about the land and about myself.

Water is elemental.  It’s a healer.  As I make my ritualistic swim to the point across the bay, with each stroke I begin to shed the mental weight that the day has piled on; the shoulda- woulda-couldas and the “to do” list the length of my leg.  In the water I can free float and unhinge my mind.  Some of my best ideas have been born there.

The shore can be a place to push off for a journey, or it can welcome you home.  It is both an embarkation point and an anticipated place to return.   A wise friend who was helping me once in a time of despair said this “When your spirit is failing you, go to the land.  You can turn to faith, friends, family or loves, but the land has the power to be an uncomplicated healer.”

 

 

And he is right.  When I go to my place on the lake I simply feel more myself.  I can touch the depth of my roots.  The trivialities fade away.  It’s me and the land and the lake.  And when I feel my own insignificance in the great big spinning world, somehow I can smile, if not laugh at what I consider to be my problems.  I can soothe my sometimes world-weary spirit on the banks of the lake.  And the best part is, the land can’t talk back.  It simply is.  The water just keeps pushing toward the shore and then retreating, a soothing metronome, keeping the beat of time.

Standing at different places on the shore can offer varying perspectives, if you are willing to look closely, to really examine the view.  And life is most interesting when different points of view collide. I suppose that in its most elemental form, the view from a shoreline is a metaphor for life.  In the morning, the sunshine bathes the eastern mountains in light and in the late afternoon it sets over the backside behind the house.  At the shore, one witnesses sudden squalls and violent storms, cloudless days and morning mist, clinging to the trees.  Occasionally we are rewarded with the gift of a rainbow.

 

So in this writing space I will try to provide a kaleidoscope of perspectives from mother, woman, friend, sister, daughter, spouse, from the more serious to lighter things in between.

Thanks for joining me here on the shore.  And thank you for adding your own perspective to mine when you leave a comment or share your story.  Those are my favorite parts.

Sit with me just a moment.  Close your eyes.  Smell the scent of mown grass above the boathouse. Waves lap.  A heron flies overhead and out above the lake a hawk soars, catching a thermal lift. Pine needles whisper and sigh in a stirring breeze.  Sunlight knifes through the slats in the dock. Feet sink into the plush wet moss on a rock. All of the best things in life come down to these small moments.

 

Friday
Jul012011

RED, WHITE AND BLUE  

“Mrs. Woodruff, what girl is ever going to go home with me from a bar?”  He looked up at me with a lopsided grin that said he was partially joking but also dead serious.  His voice was devoid of self pity.  

I glanced at his thick reddish blonde hair, wide smile, his incredibly muscled shoulders and then my eyes strayed to his legs, or where his legs should have been.  Darren was a private in the US Army, who’d been hit by a car bomb in Fallujah. He is a 24 year-old double amputee.

In these wild oats years, when he should have been kicking up his heels in every honky tonk bar in his native Tennessee, Darren had spent more than a year in a VA Hospital recovering from the physical and emotional injuries of war.  Like so many veterans, real recovery is an ongoing journey.  This is what life looks like, interrupted, but undeterred. 

He’d been in middle school when Bin Laden and his band of terrorists slammed into the World Trade Centers and the Pentagon. It had made an impression as a boy.  And when he was old enough, he told me, he’d signed up because he was an American and it was the right thing to do.  Darren wanted some action.  He wanted to defend his country from terrorists.  He had assessed the danger, but the bad thing always happens to someone else.

There is never any “why me” from guys like Darren, no palpable self-pity.  “This isn’t a disability,” one marine I met said to me, dancing in his wheel chair and popping a wheelie – “this is just a different way to get around.” 
 
It’s entirely possible that you’ve never run across a guy like Darren. Many of our service members live in and return to small towns and rural areas.  They hail from the Midwest and points south, from Texas and New England.  For those of us who make our livings in cities, it might not immediately occur to us that the man with the service dog on the sidewalk is an Iraq war vet or the mother with the prosthetic arm in Wal-Mart served two tours.  These are proud and humble people, mostly self-deprecating in that envious way that makes you wish you had a little more of that.  
 

The people I’ve met don’t see themselves as heroes.  They were just doing their job, they’ll tell you. And their job was protecting us.  Just ask the Navy Seals who took out Bin Laden or the medic who was able to put two tourniquets on his guys before he attended to his own blown off leg. This job is not for the faint of heart.  And that job benefits you whether you feel it or not.  Someone has to protect the castle. Someone has to pull the night watchman’s shift.

This Fourth of July, I hope you have a chance to gather with family and friends.  And as you celebrate by a lake or an ocean, overlook the purple mountain’s majesty or the rolling plains, someone like Darren, someone young and proud and very brave, is on a foreign base or in a military vehicle in the desert, wearing far too much gear for a place so hot. They are there because their country asked them to go and they stood up and raised their hands.
 

There are no politics here, no labels.  This isn’t about being for or against these wars.  And it’s not about being pro-military, hawk or dove, donkey or elephant.

This is about the fact that no matter what complaints we have about our country, no matter what we’d like to change or improve, every single one of us should take pride in being American.   The same kind of resonant pride that bloomed after September 11th.  Sure, there is corruption and abuse of power; there are pork barrel politics, racism and extremism.  But we are a complex nation.  We fought for the right to be independent, and we founded a nation on the principal that all were welcome, free from persecution and tyranny and we’ve done the best we could with the times we had.  As a country we are continually a work in progress.  We are a perfectly imperfect vast land of disparate, differing folks braided together. We are fallible, but ever hopeful, ever striving.
 
This July 4th, take a moment in between the BBQ or the fireworks to think about what it means to be personally free, and how that freedom has a cost.  More than 360,000 of our veterans have returned home from the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan with some kind of a brain injury alone.  That doesn’t count the amputees or the fallen.  Behind each one of these statistics are individuals and families whose lives are forever changed, irretrievably different because of their service.
 


And when our countrymen come home wounded, different or broken—it’s up to the rest of us, the people like you and me who didn’t make a sacrifice, to take care of them.
That’s just simply what people of a great nation do.
I hope this video inspires you this July 4th.